Do we really need another site of the web giving us the same ol' information about and for crossdresser, transvestite, transsexual, and other transgender people? I have to be honest, probably not. So why have I started this site? Well, there are two reasons. First, I like to organize things my own way because there can always be more sites devoted to education about these people. (Yes, I realize that I could be working on this site the rest of my life.) The second reason is more selfish; I hope to lead you somewhere if you stick with me.
Who am I to be so bold about such things? Well, if you want a long and boring story about a crossdresser (actually transsexual), then you might want to check my story on the web. So I am one of the people who are talked about on the various sites devoted to the topic.
For those who might be offended by my loose use of the term "crossdresser," please keep this in mind: One of the bad ways we use labels is to stratify the community. In order for any of us to survive, we need to be a united community. A TS is neither "better" nor "worse" than a CD; we are just at different points on our gender journey.
One quick bit of business, if you don't mind the interruption: If you are one of those people who think all males who wear women's clothes are sick, twisted, and perverted, please stop now and go elsewhere. I'm willing to bet my life that you have just as many issues in your life as we do, so there is no point in judging us (Romans 2:1). There is ample evidence that these conditions are there at birth and they may be even exacerbated by society's pressures. And don't try to tell me that the Bible says it's a sin -- there is NOT ONE verse in the Bible that supports that claim! (And before you write me a comment telling me I'm wrong, please read this article.
"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you're not." (André Gide)
Okay, now back to our regularly scheduled program...
"Wherever a man is against his will, that is his prison." (Epictetus)
Not all crossdressers feel like "a woman trapped in a man's body." But many of us (notably transsexuals) do. It's not a terribly good description of the problem. The quote above is actually a better description of our torment.
Our "birth defect" (i.e. having a Y chromosome) is a prison that is very hard for others to understand. We can only attempt to explain how we feel and hope that something will click with you that will give you a glimmer of the anguish we face on a daily basis.
"If there is a defect on the soul, it cannot be corrected on the face. But if there is a defect on the face, and one corrects it, it can correct a soul." - Jean Cocteau (1859-1963)
Remember that to "love your neighbors as your self," you must love yourself first. I forget who said it, but "the goal of life is to be able to sit in a room alone and enjoy the company." You can do it.
This site will be a work in progress, sometimes fast, usually slow. New things will pop up here as I have time to devote to them.
To some extent, it matters where you are. Some states, and cities, have protections for us. In those places, your odds of getting a job go way up. I can heartily recommend the Boston area, where I live (and work) now.
First, your resume doesn't list your gender. And, while most job applications ask, they don't ask which jobs you held which way.
Remember that few employers actually check.
Also, most applications ask if you used a different name in the past. Tell the truth. Be open with the employer; just don't tell them more than they ask - they probably don't want to know.