Nancy Wichmann

This was originally a short article for our group newsletter in December of 2005.

Yes, for those who haven't noticed, it's that time of the year again. For some of us, it's a great and happy time. For others of us, it's a depressing time.

Why do so many have problems at Christmas? The medical community has a whole plethora of answers - and for some of us, they may be valid.

Certainly, there are those of us who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder. This is a condition that is exacerbated by the short days and lack of outdoor activity to expose us to the sun. There are a variety of treatments, but the easiest, cheapest, and arguably the most effective is simply to get outside as much as possible with the least amount of bundling possible. Sunlight falling on your skin does wonders, both physically and emotionally.

But there are others for whom Christmas is depressing for the simple reason that society, and our families, don't understand us.

All I've ever wanted at Christmas was to be treated like the girl that I am. It has never happened. The closest I have ever had to this was the first Christmas after I had my ears pierced. I was given a very special pair of earrings from the most special person in my life. I cried for what seemed like hours.

What do the people around you really want? They may not want, or even be able, to tell you. You have to look into their heart. That's so much easier to do if your mind is open.

Sometimes all they want is a little acceptance and an open ear.